SHOULD RELATIONSHIPS BE 50/50?


Hi guys, so I want this to be more of a discussion—share your thoughts with me in the comment box.


A 50/50 relationship means that each person gives the exact same amount of themselves—fully. Partners base their giving on sameness and equality rather than the needs of the relationship.


Personally, I don’t think real relationships should be 50/50... ‘cause you gotta count how many times you’ve done something for your partner, and how many times they haven’t. Truth is when you love someone, doing things for them is blissful because it makes you happy, and it makes you even happier that they appreciate your efforts and the smiles you put on their faces.


I met this guy who was looking for a wife, and all he wanted to know was how much I earn 🤨, and I asked why, and he said in case of splitting bills.. I was wowed! Really there are guys with this mindset? You not ready to get married if you looking for a woman you can split bills with because you don’t even know the essence of marriage.


Relationships require fairness, not equity. We need to start asking ourselves, “How do I create and maintain a relationship that is fair for me, my partner, and the relationship itself?”. You don’t do things expecting something back in return—that’s business, and are relationships now business?


Let me be personal a bit, guys who love their women have never had a problem with taking care of her or paying all the bills but she having something doing is a bonus to him. Truth is, a man always wanna do something for a woman, and if you’re too independent that you don’t need a damn thing from him, it’s kinda emasculating so when I see guys who are looking for women they can split bills with, I feel sad for them in advance of the quarrels, and disrespect they’ll experience later on.


Relationships should be about happiness, and if you happy in yours, little things will matter to you, like complimenting your partner, giving them treats, gifts, and surprises—and it applies to both the man and the woman. It’s something you do willingly on your own, though sometimes we may forget when we become so comfortable, but it’s important we to do these things to keep the longing and to keep the fire burning.


In summary, roles shouldn’t be shared in relationships. Do what you can when you can. Support your partner with what you got, and stay happy ❤️




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  1. You should write more chinwe

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  2. Nice piece.

    Lemme preface this by saying, the role of a man is to love, protect & provide. Here's my 2 cents from afar.

    There's is nothing wrong in looking for a PARTNER who can support you or at least hold her own to some extent. I am not saying she should contribute 50/50. My reason is, things hard for 9ja so it takes like forever for a man to even make it to the point of being the ONLY provider in a home. Hence, why some men marry late.

    Other times, most guys have been 'burnt' in the past. Like after all the spending, the lady go just leave am go. Him go come dey calculate how much him done spend.

    But there is no greater assurance than to show her how you will treat her when you marry her.

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