10 CHOICES YOU WILL REGRET IN 10 YEARS

"I wish...." these two words matched together create one of the saddest phrases. We can all agree that when we wann’ talk about regrets, we always start with “I wish", and that means we would have done better if we knew better


In that regards, guys, here are 10 choices that will take you down that regret lane, and how to avoid them.


1. PUTTING ON A MASK TO IMPRESS OTHERS


If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. When you spend so much time focusing on everyone else's perception of you or how exactly you want others to see you, then you will eventually forget who you really are. Don't fear the judgement of others; always tell yourself that they are humans like you! You don't have to be perfect to inspire others, let them be inspired by how you deal with your imperfections. In 10 years, you'd wish you were your true self and had people love you for who you really are.


2. LETTING SOMEONE ELSE CREATE YOUR DREAMS FOR YOU 

You know I made one of the greatest mistakes in my life and that was letting my family make me study science because I did well in Biology in high school hence me studying microbiology, when medicine didn’t work. Deep down I knew I cringe at the sight of blood, and none of these courses were gonn’ work for me. I remember during my project practicals, I couldn't stand the smell of the microorganisms that were being cultured in the lab. My mum wanted me to study medicine and become a doctor but how can I be a doctor when I'm a very emotional person and hate the sight of blood? I realized I would have done better studying law or literature, but the good thing is that I adjusted and embraced who I am and I am fulfilled living that life. The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are, and the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A bigger part of this is to stay true to your dreams and goals. People will disagree with you but stand your ground because at the end, when you become a success, they will still ask you how you pulled through. At some point in my life I took a hard decision everyone would think is crazy, but at the end of it all, am I happy and proud? Yes! Because I didn’t sacrifice my dignity. In 10 years, you'd wish you had lived your dreams. 


3. KEEPING NEGATIVE COMPANY 

Believe it or not, who you gonna be in years to come is 80% dependent on the kind of people you are constantly around, and this is someone I don’t joke with! Don't let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you; don't let them get to you! They can't pull the trigger if you don't hand them the gun. Remember that keeping a negative company is a choice not an obligation, free yourself to keep the company of ideas instead of gossips, compassion instead of anger, happiness instead of envy, peace instead of malice, patience instead of anxiety; even though I’m not such a patient person with people, but it helps me avoid drama because I already know that if we’re not alike nor think alike, then we’re bound to have issues, so why don’t I avoid the issues by walking away instead. In 10 years, you'd wish you kept good company. 


4. BEING SELFISH AND EGOTISTICAL 

A good character will take you anywhere and people you inspired and shared your love with will always remember how you made them feel even after a very long time. Carve your name on hearts and not on stone because we will always be remembered by what we did! What you do for yourself alone dies with you but what you do for others and the world remains. It's a small world indeed, and what you give out, finds its way back to you. 


5. AVOIDING CHANGE AND GROWTH 

Hehe, a lot of people are scared of getting old hence they prefer to be stagnant and act like a child, but hey, you get older as the clock ticks even though good genes and good skincare can maintain your youthfulness. If you want to know your past, look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future, look into your present actions. If you can't let go of the old way, you can't create something new hence hindering yourself from lasting success. In 10 years, you'd regret all the nonsense you wasted your time on. 


6. GIVING UP WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH 

To be honest, there are no failures; only results which simply means you should try it another way. Even if things didn't work out the way you wanted, don't be disheartened and don't give up. Just learn what you can and move on. The great people you know about now didn't freak out at any little challenge; nah they kept going—advancing one step at a time and that's how they won in the end. If you give up now, in 10 years, you'd wish you hadn't. 


7. MICROMANAGING EVERY LITTLE THING 

Sometimes you should relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Live at the moment and be happy while you appreciate the good things. Go a little before you squeeze it out. I don't have it all, I worry at times but I snap back to being happy in 2.5 seconds because I have every reason to. Take a deep breath and wait for the dust to settle so you can once again see the forest for the trees and take the next step forward. You don't have to know where you're going, to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you get it or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots so breathe! 


8. SETTLING FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE 

You may get knocked down lower than you have been just to stand taller than you have ever been before. At 21, I already had some experiences and lessons that would last me a lifetime, but in all, I still say life is beautiful. You just ain't seeing it! Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again, so it's ok to cry. Don't let situations make you settle for less. You know within you what you deserve! Wait for it and don't settle. Yes it will come if you patient enough and if you ain't now, you'd wish you were. 


9. ENDLESSLY WAITING TILL MORROW 

The problem is that you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and realize that there's no time anymore to work on the things you've always wanted. And at that point you will either have achieved your goals or have a list of excuses why you haven't. 


10. BEING LAZY AND WISHY-WASHY 

Honey, understand that the world doesn't owe you anything and no one owes you anything either instead you owe the world something. So quit your daydreams and start working. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility/control of your life. You matter, you are important, you are needed. It's too late to sit around and wait for someone to do something someday. That someday is now and that someone is you. The world needs you and in 10 years, you'd wish you had made a difference. Now do you have to wait for 10 years to realize all these? Never let anyone tell you how insignificant what you do is, you matter and if you touch just a soul, it will appreciate you forever and you will forever be remembered by that act of kindness. 

We can always be better if we want.. xx

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